If you follow my personal Facebook page, you might remember my "We just took one of the biggest leaps of faith we've ever taken. Talk about trusting God. Pheeeeew.....", status from a couple weeks ago.
Yah that one.
Well... My husband, Kirk, has worked for UPS for nearly 13 years. He's gone 14 hrs/night (5 nights/week) and he sleeps all day. We're lucky if we see him for 1 hr/day. There are some mornings, when we literally (no joke) pass by each other to catch a hug & kiss, as I'm waking up, & he's going to bed. Sometimes I cry...
And then we rush in the late afternoon to get him some dinner, put all his food together to last him through the night, & shove him out the door with more hugs & kisses. Then he would sleep half the day on Saturdays, after he'd get home from work.
Recently they decided to change his schedule on him. It would split our day completely in half, and he'd get home around 4:30am, with zero chance of seeing me & the kids, which would give us a grand total of about 20 minutes / day with him. Maybe.
The guys "bid" their yearly routes every April, according to seniority, and as depressing as it was, we decided to just have him stay where he was at, & go with their required changes, because no other route would work for us financially.
Kirk had gone up to the center to sign the paper. I was waiting for the phone to ring (like 10 seconds away), to start an appointment with one of my clients, when he called.
"Jenn, I can't sign this... It doesn't feel right, & the thought of signing it makes me feel sick. I don't know what to do. I need help. "
Me: "Um, WHAT? Ok. We have 2 hours till your bidding time is over, and I have a client about to call. I can't talk. Come home. We'll talk in an hour & figure this out."
An hour later... I walk out of my office, and look at him wondering what we're going to do, because we only have about an hour to make this decision & get back up to the UPS center to sign. I was sobbing.
All we could do is kneel down as a family & pray... Every single one of us had the overwhelming feeling that he needed to take a 4 night run. But how? That would cut 20% of our income. Logically, there was just no way.
He ended up calling his mom to ask her advice, & she said, "Son, there comes a point in life, when we need to realize there's a difference between having faith, & exercising faith. And I believe now is the time to exercise faith."
We all felt peace. We knew this was what we needed to do.
And so, Kirk works 4 nights/week now. Still 14 hrs/night, but he has Fridays off, and has most of Monday with us as well.
The Lord didn't give us time to think it through. He knew that because of the magnitude of this change, we would sit on it, and go back & forth 1 too many times. He made this happen in the last hour, without time to think, only time to pray. And we had to trust Him.
There were more things that happened around this that aren't coincidence. It's very clear that the Lord has His hand in this.
We have more time with Kirk now. And he has more time to work on helping me build this business to help a whole lot of people...
We can't quite see right now what's ahead of us, and it's a little nerve wracking. But we feel peace.
A few days after making this decision, an opportunity came up for us, that just happens to be during his vacation week in June. And it costs a good chunk of money, considering what we just did... But I knew when the opportunity came, that I needed to take it, because it's centered around this very change we just made, & I know that it will help bring huge clarity & open up the way for us to move forward. He doesn't even know what it is yet. Happy Anniversary, honey! You'll find out soon. ;)
The Lord puts opportunities in our path at the right time. We just have to recognize them & act. Even if it's scary.
The sea only parts, AFTER you step into the water.
A friend of mine posted on her Facebook page the following status:
"The most miserable people are the ones who know what they are doing wrong - but STILL DO IT!"
A big debate began, as to whether there is a "black and white" to what is right and wrong.
One person responded: "Who determines what is right & wrong? It really depends on what they are doing. Culture drives a lot of beliefs and what is right in one culture is not always right in another. You may believe one thing and someone else believes something completely different, but that doesn't make them wrong or miserable."
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Respectfully, I don't agree with how she responded, so I commented back with my own thoughts. Thankfully, my friend that posted the original status responded to my comment with -"Perfect!!"
Here's what I said & how I feel:
"If the source of the choice is Light, then it's right. If the source of the choice is dark, or questionable, then it's probably wrong. It doesn't matter what one person's perception of it is. To them it may "seem" right or wrong, which is based on perception. However the Laws of God & the Laws of the universe are black or white no matter what. They're unchangeable. So yes, everything is black and white. We being here on earth base what we do & think mostly on perception, because of what we've learned from birth - from others.
Perception isn't perfection. Perception is earthly & temporal. Perfection is heavenly & eternal & what we're striving for. A person who can't or chooses not to follow a simpler law (of God or the universe, either one) will be more likely to see things as gray or in the middle. If they're striving to go above & beyond to always do everything that points to light & have the desire to follow the higher laws, there's usually no question as to what is right & wrong - or black & white."
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I do feel though, that when something is good, there may be more than one way to do it. For example natural healing... Herbs may work best for one person, when essential oils may work best for another. Both are good, & either can be used. Another example... When we pray to Heavenly Father for something & have 2 choices, He may allow us to make the choice ourselves & not give us a direct answer on which to choose, because they're both good, and either one would benefit us. So then we choose whichever we want at that time.
And culturally, there may be different "good" things. One culture may eat a certain variety of whole foods, & another culture may choose to eat a different variety of whole foods, but they're both healthy. OR one culture may choose to dance & dress one way, while another culture chooses to dance & dress another way. And they both may be good - JUST DIFFERENT, because there is often more than one way to do something good.
But then there are those choices we make, that if they are not right... Then they are wrong. Period. No if's, and's, or but's about it. They're black & white according to the laws of nature - WHICH GOD FOLLOWS & always has. It's unchangeable.
If a person doesn't believe something is wrong, they may seem happy, or healthy, or content. But eventually - no matter what it is - if it goes against the Laws of God/Nature, the consequences will manifest.
So yes, I do believe there is always black & white, when it comes to right & wrong. In addition, if there is any question or doubt, or if there is a feeling of being unsettled about something, then get down on your knees and ask if it's right. If you receive peace, you will know it is right & in alignment with God's laws. The adversary cannot mimic peace. Peace is a most amazing gift.
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