Do you ever say either of these:
"I don't have time to __________"
"I didn't have any time to __________"
I have! Guess what I figured out. We should be saying something completely different. And here it is:
"I'm not making the time to __________"
"I didn't create the time to __________"
Why? Because it's true. Have you ever heard of Parkinson's Law? It states that "Work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion."
When I was a child, I slept as loooooong as I could. As long as I was allowed. After I got married I carried on my sleep tradition waking between 10:00-11:00am. Sometimes later.
After the kids were old enough to get on the bus for school, I would climb back in bed & sleep for another 2-3 hours. And I tried to catch an afternoon/evening nap if at all possible. I was the world's best napper. Really, I was... Sunday afternoons were my best friend, because I could take a 2-3 hour nap. My family knew that was MY time, & I was not to be disturbed except in case of emergency.
When we started homeschooling a few years ago, I got up between 7:00-8:00am. Yay me! And the naps became less & less. Yay me again! By this time we were eating whole foods & were focusing on holistic living/healing, so a lot of things had shifted, which allowed me to have a good bit more energy. And getting up those few hours earlier helped even more. I didn't drag all day like I used too. At least I could say that much.
But about a year & a half ago, I started feeling the impression to get up even earlier. Really? REALLY? I was never ever a morning person. I mean 7:00-8:00 isn't *that* late is it? Yet at the same time, though I didn't want to admit it, I had this way deep down burning desire to actually be a morning person! I wanted to get up at 5 or 6am, have more energy, be happier, receive more inspiration, & accomplish more.
Don't you love how when inspiration speaks, all things related to that inspiration somehow seem to just magically show up in your life every time you turn around? Yah, me too... Once I come across something 3 times in a row fairly close together, I know it's time to pay attention.
Of course I had heard, "Early to bed early to rise - makes a man healthy, wealthy, & wise" for years. And I'd read about retiring & rising early in the bible & other church teachings, so I knew it was important. But it was one of those things I threw out the window & ignored. Because I wanted too.
I. WAS. NOT. A. MORNING. PERSON.
It didn't take long before I started hearing about the "Power Hour" concept from business coaches & other places. Little blurbs about getting up early in the morning would pop up in books I was reading. AND then... a book called, "The Morning Miracle", by Hal Elrod somehow appeared on my Kindle.
Most books I just scroll on past. But you know those books that catch your eye, & you kind of just stare at for a minute knowing you need it, because tingles just made their way up your arms & spine?
This was that book.
So I clicked on the description & then the reviews. Impressive! Then I downloaded a sample. It wasn't hard to click the "buy now" button at the end of that sample! Talk about a life changing paradigm shift. All I can describe it as is INCREDIBLE. I joined The Morning Miracle group on Facebook & started reading all the amazing stories of people beginning their Morning Miracle journey.
Losing weight. Illness vanishing. More energy. Happier. New business opportunities. Unexpected money.
Within days & weeks miracles were truly happening for these people!
Not long after, our monthly church magazine, The Ensign, showed up in the mail. The first article I saw was entitled: "Filled with Life and Energy". Yes please!!! I started reading, & it was all about the blessings of getting up early in the morning. Are you kidding me? Ok. After 17 or 18 times of having things like this show up for me, you'd think I would get the hint.
Well, I did in my mind. But not in my body... The dumb thing is, I was usually up between 5-5:30am anyway for a potty break (TMI? Sorry.) & I was fairly energized! And several times last summer I got up & walked with my daughters at 6-6:30am, which was awesome.
So WHY I climbed back into bed is beyond me, because every single time, without fail, I woke up 2-3 hrs later feeling drained. In my mind, I wanted SO BAD to get up early, because I truly do love morning. I've had some pretty incredible spiritual insights about morning time this past year that kind of blew me away, and yet still, I couldn't bring myself to actually get up earlier than 7:30-8am on a consistent basis.
But guess what. Today was the day. September 10, 2015. I went to bed last night at 10pm, & I told myself I was going to wake up & STAY UP with energy & excitement. At 5:00am my alarm woke me up.
I actually got up! (If you're already a morning person, don't laugh at me. This is a big deal!)
I rolled off the bed onto my knees to give gratitude & converse with God about my (our) day ahead. Then I listened to audio scriptures & an inspirational personal development book as I got ready for the day. I organized a little bit more of my office, I made breakfast, & it really wasn't that bad :)
My morning routine will include my very own 'Power Hour' - (Prayer, meditation, affirmations/visualizations, exercising, spiritual/inspirational reading, & journal writing). I still have to organize it to fit me, but that's what some of my new found time in the morning can be used for, right? Then after my Power Hour I'll have time to work on business things & move into family life & homeschooling after the kids are up & going. My very own Morning Miracle. Aaaaahhhh.......
We've been working hard on re-organizing, creating space, & getting rid of ANYTHING that doesn't bring us joy or serve a positive purpose in our lives. It opens us up to receiving more of what we really need & what God wants for us. When we wake up early, it opens up a space for us to receive. More time, more opportunity, more health, more intuition, more abundance.
Within those first few newly created hours, I had new insight on some things for my business, I accomplished more by 9:00am than I often do by lunch time, & my husband surprised me with roses, a sweet card, & a yoga magazine! (He also gave roses & a card to my daughter & a Lego mini-figure & a card to my son...) Sweet & simple abundance that filled our day with joy :)
If you've been struggling to find "extra" time in the day, create it. If you already get up early, consider what unnecessary or time wasting things you could cut out of your life or at least cut back on.
(Like social media? Ahem...)
This one small thing has the potential to change your whole entire life.
After all... "By small and simple things are great things brought to pass".
--- "That's so disgusting, mom. What are those green things?"
--- "Mom, it's literally making me gag!"
I was born & "mostly" raised in the south, & I honestly learned to like a wide variety of foods. I LOVED boiled peanuts, sauerkraut, jicama, kumquats, brown rice, seafood, anchovies, asparagus, artichokes, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, collard greens, turnip greens, and pretty much any greens put on my plate.
But I hated tomatoes. And watermelon. And lettuce. And a tiny handful of other foods... But tomatoes. Oh my gosh. I'm 42 years old at the time of this writing, & it's only been in the past 3 years that I've been able to finally start enjoying tiny little cherry & grape sized tomatoes - IF they're mixed with other foods. I still can't stomach full sized tomatoes. The fact that I can actually enjoy taking a few little yellow pear tomatoes & add them to my dish is literally a miracle.
Lettuce (especially the thick crunchy white part) made me gag. I would sit at the table for ever... and ever... and ever... And one time, even 2 hours later, I sat there staring at the lettuce on my place, because I couldn't swallow it. I'm not sure what changed as I got older, but I eat salads nearly every day now, & I LOVE them.
I never, ever liked watermelon, unless it was the little tiny personal sized sweet Crimsons on a super hot & sweaty day. Last night my daughter was visiting, & she wanted some watermelon. We started having a conversation about how people sprinkle salt on their melon. I'd heard of people doing that, but EW! It sounded so gross to me. As she stood there cutting it into chunks & pulling the salt out of the cupboard, I stared at her from across the family room with a look of, "That is just so..... weird."
Then I got brave.
Result: I like watermelon sprinkled with salt. (Unrefined pink Himalayan salt, of course)...
What I realized as I was sitting there, is that I wasn't just paying attention to the taste. I was conscious of more than that. The cold, the texture, the smell. It's the same with tomatoes. I find myself paying attention to more than just the taste of the food.
I came across an article online recently from 'Super Healthy Kids', that talked about how to approach getting your kids to like new foods. This part cracked me up:
If you focus on just taste, you're up for failure. There's one comment that most parents make, that is a 'recipe' for disaster. And now I can see why! I said it all the time. Here is what you / me / we need to stop saying to our kids:
"Just try one bite. If you don't like it, you don't have to eat it."
What our children are actually hearing when we say that, is this:
"If you like it, then you have to eat it."
I would bet that if your kids are picky eaters like mine have been, the LAST thing they want to do is admit that they actually like a healthy food! My son has made horrible faces while tasting foods, & yet I know darn well that he likes it, because of his body language & the look in his eyes. He just doesn't want to lose that power struggle.
I've noticed that when I'm thinking about it, & I use different wording, he's actually more ok with telling me he really does like it. In my book, "Real Food Pantry Makeover", there is a section on what's called Conscious Eating. Or Purposeful Eating. It focuses on what I mentioned above... Eating small bites, chewing slowly, paying attention to the texture, the smell, the temperature, the taste, the emotions you feel, etc. And being truly grateful for the food.
Super Healthy Kids approach to success? Here you go:
Well DUH - That makes it more like a fun science class than a battle for power! And yet they still have power, because they get to observe & experience while coming up with an awesomely creative answer to your questions! It takes the focus away from the negative food stigma & actually gets their curiosity rolling.
You know what I think? I think I'm going to not only use those questions with my kids, but I'm going to use them with myself too! Maybe it will help me begin to enjoy the few foods I still don't think I like. :)
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